It seems like in this day and age if you don’t have a boyfriend/girlfriend you’re doomed to be “forever alone.” People, particularly young people, say it all the time. If they aren’t in a relationship then they’re automatically bound to end up as single recluses for the rest of their life. Seriously? You cannot possibly determine your future based off the fact that as a 16 year old you aren’t in a relationship. I realize to most people it’s just a catchy saying and usually is a hidden request for sympathy, but I’m about to tell you why “forever alone” just isn’t working.
1. What kind of person would want to date someone who is constantly feeling sorry for themselves? Definitely not a respectable one! If you always feel sorry for yourself and openly act like you don’t deserve to be in a relationship then eventually someone is going to swoop in and “rescue” you. They’ll think they’re doing you a huge favor by dating you and that now you owe them something- don’t get in that situation. Be confident. Nothing is more attractive than confidence.
2. Don’t let being in a relationship determine your worth. I dont care if you’re 14 or 35. You can still live a full and complete life without being in a relationship. I know that everyone desires companionship but sometimes God has other plans. What if instead of determining that your life is a waste if you aren’t married, you focus your time on a career or on something you’re passionate about. You can still be happy.
3. You have to respect yourself. Building on the first reason a little bit here- you can’t expect someone else to respect you if you don’t respect yourself. Someone is only worth as much as they believe they are worth. If you think you’re doomed to be forever alone then odds are everyone else is thinking it too. Like I said – nothing is more attractive than confidence!
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